# What is it that YOU are looking for in a relationship?

Where do I even begin, for starters I think everyone can agree with me when I say, dating has its fair share of ups and downs. 

Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, much like people do! 

So, whether you’re looking for a relationship that is polyamorous or monogamous, maybe you’re newly single and ready to mingle or you’ve been at it for awhile and just haven’t found the right one — dating can be a major life transitional period full of learning curves.

At the risk of being blunt, let’s not leave out the elephant in the room when it comes to today’s dating culture and the complexity that one faces with technology. 

Not only has technology made it easier to gain access to the next best thing, but the ability to have more than one lifetime partner is about a 50/50 chance with the divorce rates in America the way that they are. 

One might assume that with the technology boom and its effect on changing the dating game that dating apps and social media would have a positive impact on making the whole thing easier. 

In this case and so many others just like it, its the opposite, technology is making dating more challenging, go figure.

So, you ask me what tips or advice do I have for a woman who comes to me in therapy and says, the guy I have been seeing said, “I love you but I want to see other people.” 

As a therapist, I have to stop myself from making assumptions about what “he” meant and I notice myself becoming curious about what you want in your relationship with him, 

• How does it make you feel that “he” said this to you, have you discussed being serious? 
• Was the relationship casual? 
• What values do you have and how are you seeing them be reflected to you in your relationship with him? 

I think the only real conclusion I can come to is going to be the same every time, I would ask, “What is it that you are looking for in a relationship?” 

And to me this is where the real work can begin.

Relationships are complex, don’t go at it alone, call me for a free consultation anytime!

December Breidel, MA, LPCC – www.onestepbeyondcounseling.com

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